It is the mastery that separates the winners from the losers in everything in life.
" It is the ability to keep doing something in spite of obstacles" .
People who persevere show steadfastness in doing something despite how hard it is or how long it takes to reach the goal. It is -- sometimes called "grit" --hence the great leveller that will determine if you will achieve your dreams :)
You don't have to be the wealthiest, have the most friends, or be the smartest kid in the class; if you persevere, you can reach your goals.
Ask yourself these two questions :
1. Are you someone who perseveres despite difficulties and setbacks, or do you tend to throw in the towel and call it quits when faced with a challenge or adversity?
2. What makes some people able to keep pushing and complete a task while others habitually fizzle and don't follow through?
THE PERSEVERANCE HORMONE
Dopamine is the fuel that keeps people motivated to persevere and achieve a goal. You have the power to increase your production of dopamine by changing your attitude and behavior.
Scientists have identified higher levels of dopamine -- also known as the "reward molecule" -- as being linked to forming lifelong habits, such as perseverance.Neuroscientists have known for years that dopamine is linked to positive behavior reinforcement .
Recently they have also discovered the specific receptors that link dopamine directly to the formation of good and bad habits.
"Dopamine neurons regulate circuits all over the brain but they need to be regulated too,"
This discovery opens the door to speeding up the process of forming good habits and, possibly, selectively removing bad ones such as drug addiction or smoking since the same circuits are seemingly involved in both.
In this article I will give people of all ages a simple prescriptive of ways to trigger the release of dopamine.
I will show you simple ways to tap your brain's internal 'pharmacy' and trigger dopamine production on demand so that you can create a habit of perseverance.
Perseverance is the key to success in life.
WHY IS PERSEVERANCE SO IMPORTANT TO YOUR SUCCESS?
It is the key to unlocking your dreams :)
I've identified seven qualities to enhance perseverance in your life :
1. The ability to find meaning
When we experience disappointment, loss, or trauma, finding meaning in our pain helps us accept and integrate what we've gone through.
Do it: Get into the habit of imparting meaning onto unwanted experiences, asking yourself,
a. "What lesson is in this?" or
b. "How can this help someone else?" or
c. "What emotional tolerance muscle am I strengthening right now?"
If you're having trouble identifying a "gift," trust one will emerge in the future, or tell yourself that this unwanted experience is actually protecting you in some way.
2. The ability to be vulnerable, connect, and ask for help
Support and connection are essential for surviving a difficult time, yet connection is dependent on vulnerability...
Removing our masks, sharing our true experience with people we trust, and asking for help are ways we can be vulnerable, connect, and open up to receiving support.
Do it: Share your struggle with the people you trust. If there's no one in your life with whom you feel safe being "unmasked," consider connecting with a therapist.
Also, remind yourself of the universal connectedness of all beings–that you're not alone, there are millions of others experiencing something similar at this time, and we're all in this together.
3. A supportive relationship with oneself
So many of us are unaware that .
Think about it: when we're supportive and encouraging to ourselves in response to disappointment and failure, we bounce back more easily; alternatively, when we criticize and undermine ourselves, we struggle with forgiving ourselves and moving one when things don't go according to plan.
Do it: Get in the habit of saying to yourself what you would to a friend when things don't go your way. Remind yourself you're not a robot–you're an imperfect human being like everyone else, and screwing up (and feeling crappy) is part of that process. Empathize with your feelings of disappointment/shame/loss and congratulate yourself on taking a risk or stepping out of your comfort zone.
4. The ability to surrender and trust in the face of uncertainty
Believing everything is in our control is incredibly stressful. Surrendering to the anxiety-provoking reality that we have influence over very little in life can actually be incredibly relieving–if we have some sense of spirituality, faith, or trust in the process.
Do it: Ask yourself,
"What's in my control right now?" As for what's not, quit struggling and practice surrendering to life's uncertainty (key word being "practice").
Harness your spirituality or trust in something greater than yourself–even if it's "progression to the mean."
5. A sense of humor
Humor is a way of connecting with others, integrating painful experience, finding meaning, and developing a narrative for a pain-filled story.
Do it: If your story were made into a movie, what parts might evoke sympathetic laughter in a theatre? If you were recounting your experience to a friend, what could you make light of? Look for satirical and entertaining pockets in the pain.
Equanimity, defined as "mental calmness, composure, and evenness of temper, especially in a difficult situation," is essentially non-reactivity.
It's the product of mindfulness–observing our experience with acceptance and compassion and without reactivity. The more we practice mindfulness, the less fazed we are by the emotional rollercoaster of entrepreneurship (and life).
Do it: Make a point to spend part of your commute or your shower acceptingly noticing your thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations come and go as though you're watching them on a movie screen.
When your mind wanders to the future or the past, gently bring it back to your present awareness.
7. The ability to cultivate perspective and gratitude
We , as human beings , don't want to be dismissive of our struggles, but we do want to see them in a less immediate context.
Our existence is fragile and precarious; .
Do it: After self-compassionately validating what you're going through, ask yourself:
"How would the situation be different if I got a terminal diagnosis tomorrow or lost someone I love? How do my feelings about the situation change when I zoom out and see myself as an insignificant, impermanent flicker in an infinite universe?" Then fill in the blank: "Thankfully, I _____."
So work on building the qualities discussed.
Not only will you be more resilient when faced with adversity, you'll feel empowered to take the risks you need to succeed–both in your career and in life.
BE YOUR OWN CHEERING SQUAD: LEARN TO SAY
"YES !! I DID IT!" by practicing perseverance regardless of the obstacle life throws at you :)
1. Nobody else really cares if you accomplish 99% of the goals you are striving for in your life. Be your own cheering squad.
2. Don't base your feelings of self-worth on the praise and kudos of others.Doing this puts the release of dopamine and sense of accomplishment outside of your locus of control. This can leave you feeling dejected.
3. Run your own race in everything you do. Having the eye of the tiger requires that you decide exactly what you are going for and then GOING FOR IT.
Identify a target and hunt it down.
4. Get in the habit of pushing towards a goal to completion. And when you succeed get in the habit of saying, "Yes! I did it!" silently or under your breath.
If you neglect to consciously acknowledge that you have achieved a goal, dopamine will not be released and you will not reinforce the habit of perseverance.
5. Create a steady flow of dopamine is fundamental to creating a habit of perseverance.
---> This incredible neurochemical is accessible to everyone. YOU have the power to tap into your internal dopamine reserves on demand.
Learning and conditioning yourself to self-administer this 'reward molecule' everyday can turn anyone into a go-getter. With a slight attitude adjustment and shift in perspective everybody has the power to become more perseverant by tapping the universal power of dopamine.
The ability to create a habit of perseverance isn't something reserved for a few--it is available to you :)
By standing back up, everytime you fall and never giving up you give yourself the chance to achieve your goals. The ability to say YES !! I DID IT !!
Kudos to you on the road to achieving your dreams :)